Overconfidence: When Charisma is Not Handled with Care

Confidence and charisma are interrelated – confidence is necessary to enhance charisma, and when you have developed the power of charisma, you become more confident about yourself.

Hence, confidence is really a powerful thing. However, it can also be destructive. Confidence becomes bad when it reaches beyond its boundaries – when you become overconfident about yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you can do and letting other people see it. In fact, it can help you build better rapport, as other people can easily trust you with particular tasks. Confidence can get other people to notice you in a positive light, can make you gain more friends, and can help you succeed in all your endeavors.

However, as much as how confidence can make you, it can also break you. Again, that is if you have developed confidence more than you should. This is most likely to happen because many people overestimate their strengths and capabilities. For example, teenagers always complain about the over-protectiveness of their parents. They say that they can take care of themselves and that nothing bad will happen to them. Being overconfident, these youngsters don’t obey their parents and still go out on their own, believing that they can handle any situation they may face. But looking at reality, there are endless reports about teenage crimes, murder, rape, drug addiction, and so on. This happens because people overemphasize what they think they can do.

Similar to the above example (but not as morbid as it is), overconfidence or using your charisma inappropriately can destroy your personality. As what we have mentioned earlier, people make standards for somebody they would choose to like and respect. If they realize that you are way too much for their standards, they will dislike you the same way as those who don’t match their criteria. Instead of being noticed and liked, people would tend to be annoyed with how excessively you carry your confidence.

With charisma, you don’t want to brag; you just want to be recognized. To make this happen, you must apply enough amounts of its elements – smiling, body language, humor, etc. If you give more than what you should, it becomes too much to handle. Instead of looking attractive, you become irritating; instead of sounding wise, you seem boastful; and instead of giving the impression that you are making friends, you might appear to be more like an insincere politician, who gets the hearts of others just to win in the next election without really meaning what he says.
Charisma is a power. It can either be helpful or destructive. Hence, once you have gained such power, you should be responsible in using it. After all, you want to be a better person, right? So use it to make yourself better, and not worse.



The Power of Charisma
Understanding the Power of Charisma
Being extraordinary
Encarta about Charisma
How Charisma’s Spell Works
Charisma can get other people to notice you
Charisma can make you likeable
Charisma influences
Charisma can bring out the best in you
Charisma and Lifestyle
Essential Elements of Charisma Revealed
Developing That Charming Smile
Learning to Speak the Language of the Body
Building on that Positive Sense of Humor
Being Friendly and Sociable
Making You More Confident about Yourself
How Can You Be True to Yourself?
Enhancing Charisma
Physical Charm
Be presentable at all times
Maintain good personal hygiene
Learn and practice proper posture
Wear a proper scent
Eliminate body-odor
Stay healthy
Maintain proper hair care
Customize and accessorize
Discard the illusion of fatigue and exhaustion
Finally, bring out that confidence
Intellectual Influence
Always bring a punch line with you
Eliminate negativities
Go on a five-minute vacation once in a while
Always seek, never hide
Equip yourself with relevant ideas
Desire to win
Make healthy and sound decisions
Be professional at all times
Learn to be enthusiastic
Social Appeal
Don’t forget the simple gestures
Remember who’s who
Look back and sympathize
Hey, listen
Discuss, don’t argue
Make others feel special
Always be available
Don’t be jealous
Stay away from gossips
Take it easy with criticisms
Forgive and forget
Show appreciation
Be thankful
Spiritual Power
Summary and Conclusion