Learning to Speak the Language of the Body

Aside from taking N-O-T-E (Nod, Open Arms, Touch, and Eye Contact) of the body language, here are other things to consider when communicating with other people nonverbally:

1. Do not overdo the eye contact.

Make direct eye contact to show you are engaged, open, and responsive to the conversation the other person is carrying out with you. However, too much eye contact can turn into a stare-down.

That can seem intimidating, or just plain awkward.

2. Make use of your eyebrows.

Let them dance along with your voice and the thoughts you’re trying to convey.

The more animated your eyebrows are, the more outgoing, engaged, and friendly you’ll appear to other people.

A positive thought is best expressed with a rising eyebrows, indirectly saying “I am open for you.”

On the other hand, lowering them can imply negative thought.

3. Emote with the eyes. Widening your eyes implies interest and passion.

This will signal that you’re accepting, welcoming, or reacting on what others are saying.

On the other hand, narrowing the eyes may mean disbelieving, doubting, or disagreeing to the idea of the other person.

4. Combine your expressive eyes with a winning smile.

A smile communicates friendliness. Eyes are expressions of emotions.

When combined, they reveal attachment and so much interest on the other person.

Their two features combined will equal more perceived friendliness than either one alone.

5. Hold your head up when you talk.

When your head is up high, it shows confidence – you’ll seem to know what you are saying or doing.

It shows a level of engagement and warmth, as well.

On the other hand, if your head is down low, you’ll appear timid, shy, and having no interest in participating a conversation or an activity.

6. Maintain good posture.

Proper poise and posture shows confidence, interest, as well as openness.

Slouching is perceived as unfriendly because it indicates disengagement.

7. Never tap your feet when someone is talking.

Tapping says, “Hurry up, I’m losing interest,” or “I’m bored. When are you going stop?”

Unless you want to convey those ideas, don’t tap your feet in front of somebody who is speaking.

It clearly shows an unfriendly aura. You don’t want others to see this on you.

Hence, go with your relaxed feet that are kinder and more welcoming.

Relaxation shows that you are interested and have more time to listen.

8. Speak up, rather than be quiet.

Silence can be unfriendly. Words break the ice, so start a conversation.

When you begin to talk, you can form a connection with other people that will get rid of the irritation and awkwardness possibly arising out of the silence.

Maybe they are not as irksome as you thought, and you will find out how interesting they are. There’s no harm in breaking the silence and making new friends by speaking up.



The Power of Charisma
Understanding the Power of Charisma
Being extraordinary
Encarta about Charisma
How Charisma’s Spell Works
Charisma can get other people to notice you
Charisma can make you likeable
Charisma influences
Charisma can bring out the best in you
Charisma and Lifestyle
Essential Elements of Charisma Revealed
Developing That Charming Smile
Learning to Speak the Language of the Body
Building on that Positive Sense of Humor
Being Friendly and Sociable
Making You More Confident about Yourself
How Can You Be True to Yourself?
Enhancing Charisma
Physical Charm
Be presentable at all times
Maintain good personal hygiene
Learn and practice proper posture
Wear a proper scent
Eliminate body-odor
Stay healthy
Maintain proper hair care
Customize and accessorize
Discard the illusion of fatigue and exhaustion
Finally, bring out that confidence
Intellectual Influence
Always bring a punch line with you
Eliminate negativities
Go on a five-minute vacation once in a while
Always seek, never hide
Equip yourself with relevant ideas
Desire to win
Make healthy and sound decisions
Be professional at all times
Learn to be enthusiastic
Social Appeal
Don’t forget the simple gestures
Remember who’s who
Look back and sympathize
Hey, listen
Discuss, don’t argue
Make others feel special
Always be available
Don’t be jealous
Stay away from gossips
Take it easy with criticisms
Forgive and forget
Show appreciation
Be thankful
Spiritual Power
Summary and Conclusion