Before continuing with this report, let me ask you something:

Who are you?

And please, don’t just give me a name, a profession, or family information.

Ok, to help you answer my question, sit back, relax, take a deep breath, and ask yourself the following questions:

How do I describe myself? Am I a happy person or do I get mad easily? Am I Mr. Know-It-All or just plain stupid most of the time? Do I believe that I’m good-looking or am I contented with how people see me?

How did I come up with such description? Are those how I truly feel or just things I heard from other people?

How do I behave, react, and respond …in the house? …in the office? …with my friends? …with strangers?

How do others see me? Why could they possibly say that? Do I see their bases and can I justify it?

What are my dreams, goals, and ambitions in life? Have I already achieved even just a few of them? How do I plan to achieve the rest of them?

Who are my true friends? Close friends? Distant friends? Acquaintances? Am I a real friend to them, too?

What do other people expect of me? Am I meeting their expectations or have I disappointed them even once?

What is my best asset? Why did I say so? Has anybody told me it is really a good feature on me?

The above guide questions will help you realize how well you know yourself. And once you’ve known more, here’s another question: Are you being the “real” you at all times? No hesitations? No pretensions?

Joe Pine and Jim Gilmore, authors of the book Get Real, define the term real as “being true to yourself and being true to others; as possessing authenticity and sincerity.” They add, “Real people know their roots, their heritage, and their history. They remember where they came from and who brought them to the dance. And they retain that knowledge. They know their values, and they behave accordingly.”

Being real, or being you, is important on all occasions, not just to other people, but also more to yourself. When you show people who you really are, they will believe that you are sincere. What they will hear is who you actually are. There will be no veil between your true nature and your perception of it. You are the same on the outside as on the inside.

People don’t want to be deceived in any way. And if you are untrue, if you are not real, if you do something that is not you, then you are performing deceit. How can the acts of being unreal take your charisma away from you?

First, there is lying. When other people find out that you are not telling the truth to them, everything you have ever said or done will be put into question. Another sign of being unreal is an act of hypocrisy. Don’t you feel terrible when someone is not being real with you? Finally, there is insincerity – when we are being fooled. How would you feel if you were given a praise that makes you feel great about yourself and then later on found out that it was full of hot air?

Isn’t it annoying how other people show not their true self, but somebody you don’t even know? We know the feeling. Hence, we should not be seen doing such act. If you want to be liked, be yourself. Never be afraid, because the more you show the real you, the more reasons you’ll have for other people to like you.



The Power of Charisma
Understanding the Power of Charisma
Being extraordinary
Encarta about Charisma
How Charisma’s Spell Works
Charisma can get other people to notice you
Charisma can make you likeable
Charisma influences
Charisma can bring out the best in you
Charisma and Lifestyle
Essential Elements of Charisma Revealed
Developing That Charming Smile
Learning to Speak the Language of the Body
Building on that Positive Sense of Humor
Being Friendly and Sociable
Making You More Confident about Yourself
How Can You Be True to Yourself?
Enhancing Charisma
Physical Charm
Be presentable at all times
Maintain good personal hygiene
Learn and practice proper posture
Wear a proper scent
Eliminate body-odor
Stay healthy
Maintain proper hair care
Customize and accessorize
Discard the illusion of fatigue and exhaustion
Finally, bring out that confidence
Intellectual Influence
Always bring a punch line with you
Eliminate negativities
Go on a five-minute vacation once in a while
Always seek, never hide
Equip yourself with relevant ideas
Desire to win
Make healthy and sound decisions
Be professional at all times
Learn to be enthusiastic
Social Appeal
Don’t forget the simple gestures
Remember who’s who
Look back and sympathize
Hey, listen
Discuss, don’t argue
Make others feel special
Always be available
Don’t be jealous
Stay away from gossips
Take it easy with criticisms
Forgive and forget
Show appreciation
Be thankful
Spiritual Power
Summary and Conclusion