RIENDLINESS

It has been said that if love is blind, friendship is just not noticing.

A friend is a single term we use to call our allies, supporters, sympathizers, advisers, brothers, playmates, classmates, listeners, and a lot more.

This is because we reveal things to friends that we just wouldn’t say to anybody else.

They give us encouragement, feedback, honest opinions, and advice.

A friend is someone you can trust with confidential matters - you know that he won’t hold anything against you.

A friend is someone who has the same interests as yours, and accepts, understands, and loves you for who you are.

Friendship is the first thing we can offer to and accept from a person after having to meet him personally and know some things about him.

By being friendly, it may mean “expressing a liking for one person,” “welcoming him into your life,” or “conveying a generally positive feeling towards him.”

On the other hand, unfriendliness is the communication of negative feelings for another person through verbal and/or nonverbal methods.

The message conveying this aura includes:

“I’m not interested in you,” “You are not welcome,” “You irritate me,” and other distant and cold remarks.

That is why charisma is about friendliness, and not the other way around; because if somebody feels this kind of atmosphere in you, then you’ll be stuck with just being noticed but not being liked.

Making friends requires time, effort, commitment, a give-and-take-relationship, and a lot of tolerance for the many limitations and weaknesses we all have.

Although most people are open to new friendships, life pursuits such as family and careers tend to become higher priority.

Some people feel it takes too much time and effort to develop friendship.

For one, you have to develop trust, as friendship requires mutual trust between two people; and trust takes a lot of time to develop.

Also, being familiar with the other person, including knowing and practicing similar interests, does not take little time.

When you are friendly, others would want to be with you.

They would prefer to stay with you rather than with people who make them feel unwelcome.

That is why friendliness is an essential element in developing charisma – because it is actually how people will know your intentions and desires.